Guidance vs. Independence

Here are some strategies for building good decision making skills, while still giving kids the guidance and boundaries they need.

Get Their Opinion. When making decisions, get your child in on the process. When you make your decision, explain your logic.

Let younger children help decide what family activity to do together, or what their new extra-curricular activity will be. Take your teenager with you when you make a big purchase.

Let Them Experience Consequences. If your daughter decides to procrastinate on a project, don't visit the teacher to plead for your child's case and up her grade. If your son blows his allowance on candy, don't give him more money to spend.

Praise Good Decisions. Offer verbal praise for good decisions and let your child know that you are proud of him/her.

Face Fears Together. Go on a scary roller coaster together or try something new as a family. Talk to your child about what fear is and how you overcome some of your fears.

Don't Give Up! Yes, there comes a time when you may have to cut back or redirect your child's energy, but encourage your children to persevere and develop a strong work ethic.

Find small decisions your child can make and guide them to a good solution. Then, as they get older, they'll be able to learn from past situations and seek your advice as they become more independent.