Improve Your Marriage Today: 3 Steps
Want a better relationship with your wife? Here are three things you can start doing today that will have a big impact.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff. Although it is true that great love can be expressed in small ways, small mistakes made by your spouse are usually not meant as a personal slight against you. We all have our “hot buttons”: leaving the vacuum out, coffee grounds on the counter, a wet towel not hung up, dirty clothes left on the floor, etc... Getting continually upset, however, about your spouse’s inattention to things that irritate you can nickel and dime your marriage to death.
- Touch base daily in simple ways. Stevie Wonder reminds his girl that, “I just called to say I love you.” These simple expressions of love through word and touch can do a lot to calm, soothe, and restore focus.
- Set aside some time for quality communication. Depending on the ages and demands of your kids, this can seem impossible. Regardless of your circumstances, though, it is important to find something that works for you.
You might consider getting up early on a Saturday or Sunday morning before the kids get up, or you can send them to bed early one weeknight. Or maybe there is a common day where you can have lunch together at home when the kids are not there. The goal of these weekly times is to stay connected with each other on an emotional level - so don’t clutter this communication with the administrative details of running a household.
Having a great marriage takes work, but the effort is worth it for you, your spouse, and your kids!