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# You don't need to move the world - just your thumbs

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For the month of March, NFI’s [Dad Email](http://visitor.constantcontact.com/manage/optin?v=001Y9XAqyV8VF0U-UZ03oBFkQiXfrDGxV-U) is featuring tips and advice on how dads can use technology to help them build their relationships with their kids. Check out the resources from our “Tech Savvy Daddy” campaign [here](https://www.fatherhood.org/techsavvydaddy), which we’ll be updating with more information every week this month.

Last week, our focus was on “Mobile Connections,” or using text messaging to connect with teens. A recent [Pew Research Study](http://pewresearch.org/pubs/1572/teens-cell-phones-text-messages) found that 75% of teens have a cell phone. Most of them have text messaging capability, and boy do they use it! 54% of teens texted their friends daily in 2010 (skyrocketing from only 38% who texted daily in 2008!). One out of three send more than 100 text messages daily!

For those of you who are fathers of teenagers, you probably feel like their thumbs are glued to their phone. But, as our [Dad Email last week](https://www.fatherhood.org/Page.aspx?pid=1216&frcrld=1) pointed out, if texting is teenagers’ primary means of communicating, why not speak their language? We put together a list of text messages that dads can send their teens to encourage them and build their relationship. Check it out [here](https://www.fatherhood.org/Page.aspx?pid=1216&frcrld=1).

I work with a group of high school students at my church, and I quickly figured out that texting is the most effective way to communicate with them. When we were writing the suggestions of text messages for dads, I sent a text to the teens I know and asked them, “What’s a meaningful text message your dad could send you that would help build your relationship?” If we’re trying to help dads connect with their teens, why not get advice from them?

Here’s what I got back:

- just check in and see how i was doing
- maybe like i love u just wanted to remind u
- probably a Bible verse or just a note that told me to hang in there, or an invitation to spend time with him. That always means a lot to me. :)

 The point I got out of this is, dads: it’s simple. Your kids don’t need something incredibly profound from you. They just want to know that you’re thinking about them, that you love them, and that you want to spend time with them. (As busy as your teenagers are, they actually do want to spend time with you, too.)

One text I got back from a teen whose dad is not very involved hit on a much deeper issue. What would be meaningful for this teenager would be “for him to realize what he has put me through and to want to change that.” Clearly, there are years of hurt that need to be undone in this relationship and a couple text messages aren’t going to do much, but I think a little effort on the part of this dad to move closer to his child would do a lot.

I think that’s true for any dad-teen relationship, no matter how good or bad it is. A little investment in your teen’s life will go a long way. Even if it’s as simple as a text message to say “I love you.”

Date Published: 03/22/2011

Last Updated: 02/12/2014

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