--- title: Raising a Thankful Child in 4 Easy Steps description: Most likely, your child will not come out of the womb as a grateful child. 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Melissa oversees the organization's marketing, communications, graphic design, and product fulfillment functions. If you've been a parent for longer than one second, you understand children have a way of not being satisfied. Most likely, your child will not come out of the womb as a grateful child. And when she learns to speak, her first words will probably not be "please" or "thank you" -- this is life. Trust me on this one, I write from a few years of experience. The time will come when your child isn't satisfied. You bought the green toy -- she wanted the pink -- and only the pink will do! ****![raising thankful child](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/file-17548090-jpg/images/crying_baby-resized-600.jpg) Aside from throwing your hands up and saying, "forget it, we have birthed an ungrateful child who will never be thankful!" Take comfort in knowing you are not alone. I repeat: You are not alone. While your child may currently display ungrateful tendencies, he dosen't have to be ungrateful forever. With care and teaching, your daughter or son can learn to be an upstanding lady or gentleman. How we show thankfulness is vital to whether our children will act and treat others with gratitude. When it comes to teaching your child to be thankful, Gandhi's teaching comes in handy, "Be the change you want to see in the world." **Check out our four tips on how to raise a thankful child.** 1. **Model Thankfulness.** Say "please," "thanks" and "you're welcome" every day. Be sure this vocabulary is used by you and in your home. Parent, if you want your kids to be thankful, they have to see it first. I'm reminded of the saying, "Good manners are not only taught, they can be caught." It's vital that you not only teach your child to say "thank you" and "please" every day and at various moments, you must also use these words yourself. Thank your child for doing his chores well. Make sure your kids, hear you say "Thank you" to their mother. Don't limit thanks for actions - thank your family for being kind, patient, caring, or whatever character quality you notice about them that day. 2. **The "Thankful" Talk.** During dinner or in the car driving to and from an activity, ask each member of the family what they were most thankful for that day. Make asking a daily habit. Taking a moment to reflect on the day will help everyone find something positive, even if it was a tough day. Plus, it will give you extra insight into what's going on in your child's life. As the parent, be the one to always stir the conversation to the positive side and give encouragement. Remember the objective of this conversation -- you're teaching your child to be thankful! 3. **Advertise Your Thankfulness. **Hang a dry-erase board in a prominent place in your home and call it "The Thankful Board." I once worked at a company that had a "Kudos" board for its employees. This provided a great way to create an environment of encouragement and thankfulness. You can have your family write messages on the board to either say thanks to each other for something big or small. Also, you can use it to share something to your family for which they are thankful. 4. **Teach Thankfulness.** Help your child understand why it is important to say "thank you." Explain to your child the "why" behind the "what." Of course, how much you explain will depend on the age of your child, but the point here is to not simply demand and be a dictator, but to teach your child why being thankful is important. With your teenager, try asking how he feels when someone says "thank you" to him. Use this time as a opportunity to teach him that other people also want to feel noticed, appreciated, and valued and that saying "thank you" makes someone else feel happy. **What one thing will you work on that will model thankfulness to your child today? ** ![ThanksDad](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/file-17563344-png/images/novcampaignlogo-resized-600.png?width=100&height=100&name=novcampaignlogo-resized-600.png) **Visit our **["Thanks, Dad!"](http://bit.ly/NovThxDad) **page for more on how you can connect with your family and other dads just like you!** Don't forget to say, "Thanks, Dad!" by recording a video, sharing a picture or writing a short note commenting on this blog, **[Facebook](http://www.facebook.com/nationalfatherhoodinitiative)** or on Twitter **[@TheFatherFactor](https://twitter.com/thefatherfactor)**. photo credit: [Vermin Inc](http://www.flickr.com/photos/vermininc/3535967574/)  Date Published: 11/12/2012 Last Updated: 06/11/2018 ## Learn How to Build a Fatherhood Program That Works Download this free guide for a proven 7-step roadmap—from making the case and securing funding for your program, to launching and measuring real results! 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