--- title: How to Help Stepfamilies Continue the Blending Process description: Blending a family is hard. Stepdads need support specific to their unique challenges that many faith-based and community-based organizations overlook. image: https://www.fatherhood.org/hubfs/Images/Blog/NFI_Blog_blending-families-stepdads.jpg --- [Skip to main content](https://www.fatherhood.org/championing-fatherhood/how-to-help-stepfamilies-continue-the-blending-process#main) - [![NFI mark](https://www.fatherhood.org/hubfs/NFI-Assets/images/NFI%20mark.svg)FATHERHOOD.ORG](https://www.fatherhood.org/) - [STORE.FATHERHOOD.ORG](https://store.fatherhood.org/) [![NFI_logo_blue_left (1) 1](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/hubfs/NFI-Assets/images/NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png?width=149&height=82&name=NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png) ![NFI_logo_blue_left (1) 1](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/hubfs/NFI-Assets/images/NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png?width=119&height=65&name=NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png) ![NFI_logo_blue_left (1) 1](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/hubfs/NFI-Assets/images/NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png?width=119&height=66&name=NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png) ![NFI_logo_blue_left (1) 1](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/hubfs/NFI-Assets/images/NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png?width=89&height=49&name=NFI_logo_blue_left%20(1)%201.png) ](https://www.fatherhood.org) - [How To Build Strong Families](https://www.fatherhood.org/build-strong-families) - [Why Father Inclusion Matters](https://www.fatherhood.org/why-father-inclusion-matters) - Show submenu for Get Involved Get Involved - [Fatherhood Programs](https://www.fatherhood.org/solutions/programs-and-resources) - [Train Your Staff](https://www.fatherhood.org/solutions/staff-training) - [State, County, and City Agency Services](https://www.fatherhood.org/solutions/collaborative-services) Open main navigation Close main navigation - Show submenu for Get Informed Get Informed - [How To Build Strong Families](https://www.fatherhood.org/build-strong-families) - [Why Father Inclusion Matters](https://www.fatherhood.org/why-father-inclusion-matters) - [Father Stats & Infographics](https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic) - Show submenu for Get Involved Get Involved - [Fatherhood Programs](https://www.fatherhood.org/solutions/programs-and-resources) - [Train Your Staff](https://www.fatherhood.org/solutions/staff-training) - [State, County, and City Agency Services](https://www.fatherhood.org/solutions/collaborative-services) - Show submenu for Get Started Get Started - [Find Your Stage of Father Inclusion](https://www.fatherhood.org/father-inclusion) - [How Father Friendly Is Your Organization?](https://www.fatherhood.org/father-friendly) - [Get In Touch](https://www.fatherhood.org/get-started) [Store](https://store.fatherhood.org/?hsLang=en) [Get In Touch](https://www.fatherhood.org/get-started) [Store](https://store.fatherhood.org/?hsLang=en) Show submenu for Get Started Get Started - [Fatherhood Data & Statistics](https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic) - [How Father Friendly is Your Organization?](https://www.fatherhood.org/father-friendly) - [Other Free Resources](https://www.fatherhood.org/nfi-free-resources) - [Talk With us to Get Started](https://www.fatherhood.org/get-started) National Fatherhood Initiative Blog / [Latest Articles](https://www.fatherhood.org/championing-fatherhood) [child well-being](https://www.fatherhood.org/championing-fatherhood/topic/child-well-being) # How to Help Stepfamilies Continue the Blending Process 2 min read ![Erik Vecere](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/hubfs/NFI-Assets/images/Erik%20Vecere.png?width=100&height=100&name=Erik%20Vecere.png) [** Erik Vecere ** ](https://www.fatherhood.org/championing-fatherhood/author/erik-vecere) As Chief Partner Success Officer for National Fatherhood Initiative® (NFI), Erik is responsible for developing and nurturing partnerships with network-based entities that have relationships with human service organizations. ![NFI_Blog_blending-families-stepdads](https://www.fatherhood.org/hs-fs/hubfs/Images/Blog/NFI_Blog_blending-families-stepdads.jpg?width=453&name=NFI_Blog_blending-families-stepdads.jpg) We should start referring to blended families as **blend*ing* families**. The tense of this word means everything because – in my experience as a stepdad – our family will never be fully blended. Every day is another step towards unconditional love and unity. It’s an ongoing path that winds through struggles, insecurities, fears, and limitations. As a result, the blending is never done. To use the term “blending family” provides a constant reminder that creating a new family is a **process** that must account for our humanness. Blending a family is hard. Stepdads need support specific to their unique challenges – challenges that many faith-based and community-based organizations overlook. [The Institute for Family Studies](https://ifstudies.org/) published a great [article](https://ifstudies.org/blog/preparing-couples-for-the-dynamics-of-blended-family-living) highlighting why service providers need to rethink their work with blending families. The author states, “What is needed is an alternative program designed specifically for couples forming stepfamilies that can inform how leaders structure their training and ultimately close that gap.” He lists the following three areas that make blending families unique: - **Key Differences in Premarital Preparation with Couples Forming Stepfamilies.** When it comes to blending families, *coupleness* does not necessarily equal *familyness*. Traditional premarital counseling is focused on the couple dyad, but blended family living is about a couple embedded in a family journeying into *familyness*. - **Blending Family Complexity.** Biological families are often comprised of two parents and four grandparents, whereas, blending families often have between three and seven parents and stepparents, across three or more households. This makes parenting far more complicated and difficult. - **Including the Kids.** Premarital counselors who have only worked with couples may feel a little uneasy involving children in sessions, but children need to have a voice – especially with blending families. These challenges extend beyond counseling and affect every aspect of service delivery, including your work with stepdads. I encourage you to take a fresh look at your services to identify ways you can address the unique challenges stepdads face. Here are a few suggestions: - **Provide staff training on how to address stepdads’ needs. **Effective work with stepdads begins with staff awareness of the unique challenges stepdads face. Here are a couple of ways to equip your staff: - Invite stepfamily experts to speak during staff meetings, trainings, and events. - Provide resources that help staff work with stepdads. The [National Responsible Fatherhood Clearinghouse](https://www.fatherhood.gov/) has an entire webpage dedicated to [blended families and stepdads](https://www.fatherhood.gov/for-dads/blended-families), which includes several downloadable guides for staff. - **Provide resources to stepdads designed for blending families.** Create a library of resources that address stepdads’ unique challenges. Here are some wonderful options: - [Blended Family and Step-Parenting Tips Guide](https://www.helpguide.org/articles/parenting-family/step-parenting-blended-families.htm) - [National Stepfamily Resource Center](https://www.stepfamilies.info/) - [StepDadding.com](https://stepdadding.com/) - [FamilyLife Blended® Resources](https://www.familylife.com/familylifeblended/blended-families/) - **Use a curriculum that provides stepdads an opportunity to process their unique challenges.** NFI’s evidence-based [24/7 Dad®](https://store.fatherhood.org/24-7-dad-programs/) program, for example, is built on universal principles that are relevant to all dads. The principles provide the framework for stepdads to bring their unique challenges into the group or one-on-one setting where they can be discussed and addressed. - **Create a marketing strategy that targets stepdads.** You can include the term “stepdad” in your marketing materials along with other dads you target (e.g. new dads, teen dads, incarcerated dads, etc.). Find stepdads who can provide feedback on their wants and needs that would motivate them to attend a fatherhood program, then incorporate that feedback into your marketing materials. When you make a concerted effort to target, engage, and support stepdads in their family blending journey, you will play a major role in helping blending families thrive in situations where they would otherwise be left vulnerable. **What resources do you provide to stepdads?** ** ****Which of the suggestions above would enable you to have the most impact with stepdads?** [![Cutting Edge Tips for Running an Exceptional Fatherhood Program (On Demand)](https://no-cache.hubspot.com/cta/default/135704/e25050e7-67c7-4517-aadd-e63e58a7004a.png)](https://cta-redirect.hubspot.com/cta/redirect/135704/e25050e7-67c7-4517-aadd-e63e58a7004a) Date Published: 04/26/2022 Last Updated: 11/22/2024 ## Learn How to Build a Fatherhood Program That Works Download this free guide for a proven 7-step roadmap—from making the case and securing funding for your program, to launching and measuring real results! 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