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Dr. David Asbery on Navigating After Divorce and Co-Parenting

One of the biggest challenges you likely face when working with parents is helping them to effectively co-parent and get along for the sake of their children. Whether dad and mom aren't together because of divorce, or were simply never married, it can be challenging for dads to navigate their ongoing relationship with mom.

In his recent article titled My Ex-Wife now Smiles When I say Hello, Dr. David Asbery shares his personal experience, and how he navigated divorce and co-parenting. His positive outcome is what we hope can be achieved by parents who are committed to working together to co-parent after a relationship or divorce.

Read his story and you'll no doubt gain some tips for the dads you serve along the way.

Free Online Training: Co-Parenting After Divorce

We’re diligent at National Fatherhood Initiative® (NFI) about raising awareness about new, free resources—whether our own or others’—that will help you better serve dads, moms, kids, and your community.

Recently, we learned about Successful Co-Parenting After Divorce, a new, free, online training developed by faculty at Florida State University.

Two Resources 'To the Rescue' > Have Meaningful Discussions with Dads and Moms

A Fatherhood Mentor working in a Pregnancy Center called us one day in a bit of a panic. "I have a few dads coming into the center tonight and I don't have anything ready for them. What do you have that I can use?" he said.

I quickly directed him to one of our two, easy-to-use PDF discussion guides that NFI created for this very kind of thing. In fact, you, your staff, or fatherhood mentor can use these guides with ZERO preparation.

Do These 2 Things to Help a Dad Succeed

Before you read any further, take a minute to write down up to five things a dad needs to succeed in fatherhood. Then read the rest of this post.

[Video] How NFI is Helping Kansas State Agency to Engage Dads

State agencies that seek to improve the well-being of children and families can struggle to effectively engage dads in the programs and services that they and their partners provide.

That's why we're thrilled to share the latest work NFI has done alongside The Kansas Department for Children and Families (DCF).

Preparation Key to Success for Fatherhood Programs

As we celebrate our nation’s birthday this week, it pays to reflect on the practices that helped some of our nation’s greatest leaders to succeed.

NBC's Free Parent Toolkit for The Dads and Moms You Serve

Have you heard about NBC's Parent Toolkit? We're big fans, and want to tell you all about it so that you can share it with the moms and dads you serve!

What’s Happening Around the U.S. to Support Father Involvement

Have you ever wondered the extent to which father involvement is supported at the federal, state, and local levels?

Wonder no more.

When Men and Fathers Commit to Help a Fatherless Boy

This blog reposted from with permission from Roland Warren.

On the night of February 12, 2012, I received a call with the most dreaded news. Jay Young, one of my best friends died unexpectedly. He was just 50 years old. It was a tough loss. We had been friends for over 30 years since our freshman year in college at Princeton University. Moreover, along with a loving wife, he left a 12-year-old son Jared, who would have to make the perilous journey from boyhood to manhood without the steadfast guidance of his loving father.

The Lesson Whole Foods Market Offers for Serving Dads

Recent developments with the natural and organic foods grocer Whole Foods Market (WFM) provide a powerful lesson for building and maintaining a program or service for dads.

Stick with me as I provide the details of this story.

Want to Be a Better Dad? Here's How to "Remodel" Your Fathering

This blog reposted from with permission from Roland Warren.

As my wife will gladly tell you, I run very little risk of being called “handy” with a hammer or with any other tool. Indeed, it’s pretty clear that when God was passing out the carpentry and mechanical skills, I must have been busy reading the Wall Street Journal!

Given this genetic foible in my manhood, I have been forced to live vicariously through the handiness of others by watching episodes of home makeover shows or reading “do it yourself” magazines. In fact, I was doing just that when I can across an article that intrigued me.

Why You Shouldn’t Put Dads in Boxes

Have you heard the term “perennials?”

No. Not the type of flower.

I ask instead whether you’ve heard the recently coined term that describes people of all ages who have “an inclusive, enduring mindset.” Their perspective and behavior defy the stereotype of their own generations. They are of all ages. They have friends of all ages. They embrace today’s technology. They are curious. They want to learn and grow.

Friendly Fire: Fathers and Sons Find Kinship and Opportunity in Paintball

Old, green woodshop goggles stuck to Todd Sloan’s face as he ran across a paintball field in the California heat. In 1983, he wore no gear to protect him from the welts. He carried a 12-gram, CO2-powered pump-action weapon that held eight to 10 shots. The JT Splatmaster pistol in his hand was no more than a glorified plastic gun.

He loved it.

Paintball became Sloan’s passion. He built a paintball memorabilia wall in his house, with pictures of paintball skirmishes, shelves of paintball trophies and a display of his first semi-automatic paintball gun. He no longer has his original 12-gram Splatmaster, but he does have an active role in the activity. Sloan now referees in both the Central Texas Paintball League and Houston Paintball League – with his son, Dominic, when he’s home.

How to Build Trust and Rapport with Dads

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Antione Harvis of Dad’s League, a fatherhood program in Opelika, Alabama. Dad’s League partners with the Family Resource Center in Opelika and surrounding communities to serve dads.

Dad’s League holds “locker room sessions” in which Antione and several teams of volunteer dads facilitate National Fatherhood Initiative’s (NFI’s) 24/7 Dad® A.M. and P.M. programs. Dad’s League facilitates the programs in five settings: community-based non-profits, corrections, schools, veterans, and faith-based. They will soon start to facilitate the InsideOut Dad® program in a county jail and detention center.

When I asked Antione what is the primary job he has to accomplish with dads, he said that it’s to establish trust and rapport. He says that establishing a connection of trust first and then establishing rapport as the foundation of a good relationship with dads is critical to getting them to commit to attend locker room sessions.

Read on.

FRPN Free Webinar > Achieving High Response Rates and Dealing with Missing Data in Fatherhood Evaluations

NFI President Christopher A. Brown sits on the Fatherhood Research & Practice Network (FRPN) advisory committee. FRPN has announced their next (and eighth!) free webinar for researchers and practitioners.

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